Talk is Cheap

In this article I’d like to take a look at my job – my right livelihood over the past 30 years – talk therapy. And I’d like to suggest that calling it “talk therapy” misrepresents and grossly undervalues what you and I (or we if you’re part of a couple) are doing in my office…

Surrender to Love

Many of you who have worked with me know that A Course in Miracles (ACIM) and 12-Step Recovery principles continue to play a huge role in my personal healing. Growing upwith an alcoholic father means that I’ve always been wary of alcohol and drugs, thusavoiding “ingestive” addictions that involve swallowing a substance like whiskey orcocaine.…

Disorder Made to Order: Female Sexual Dysfunction?

From time immemorial men have been grumbling about the regular mood changes thatmany women experience. Most of these guys were grumbling, “she’s about to have herperiod.” But they did not conclude that we go regularly insane. Not until someone cameup with a diagnosis: Premenstrual Dysphoric Disorder (PMDD), and the pharmaceuticalcompany Eli Lilly & Co. seriously…

Happily Single

For most single people, finding a life partner is top of their list of priorities. Whether ornot they’re actively dating, a great deal of time and energy goes into that important quest.Susan, an attractive woman in her mid thirties who had been single for several years toldme, “I’m desperate to find someone I can love.…

Relationship Maintenance

What do television and divorce have in common? They’ve both increased rapidly since the 1950s. Is there a correlation? Maybe. Did you know that the average American family has the television on for seven hours a day — that’s 49 hours a week, but the average American couple spends less than on hour a week…