When married couples learn that Jill is a Marriage Therapist they often tell her, “I love her to pieces and she’s my best friend. But the sexual spark has disappeared!” Or, “we were going at it like bunnies until we got married, and now I can’t separate him from the remote!”
Therapist Esther Perel wrote a book 10 years ago that speaks to the heart of these problems. It was titled, “ Mating in Captivity – Reconciling the Erotic and the Domestic.” Jill was so impressed that she studied with Perel and now incorporates much of her brilliant approach into her work with couples.
Most of us yearn for the security that a committed domestic relationship provides. The majority of adults marry, and many of us have children. Yet secure love can suffocate the desire that we have for erotic intensity and passion. Couples need to have some distance between them so the erotic charge can crackle!
Jill loves working with couples whose relationships are loving but dull. As Perel points out, “more exciting, playful, even poetic sex is possible, but first we must kick egalitarian ideals and emotional housekeeping out of our bedrooms.” Jill says,”I truly enjoy helping lovers put the “X” back in sex!”