Kink means different things to different people. For some people, kinkiness is to be avoided, for others it adds spice and excitement, and for others it’s a vital part of the way they organize their lives. Of course, kink means a myriad of different things too, from S/M to swinging to golden showers. There’s a huge range of ways we humans have found to enjoy physical intimacy with each other.
If your sex life includes kink of any variety and you’re having a great time, you probably don’t need a sex therapist. However, you may experience difficulties in your relationship or in your family and find it helpful to work with a therapist who is comfortable with the way you express your sexuality.
If, on the other hand, you’re not happy with the way kink is being expressed in your life, you may well find that talking it through with an experienced and non-judgmental therapist can help you find ways of meeting your needs and those of your partner(s) which are more comfortable and congruent with who you are. If your sex partner is making you participate in sexual acts which make you uncomfortable or hurt, you need to consider whether you are the victim of abuse.